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Self
If you can’t lead yourself, nothing else holds. Confidence starts here.
1Life1Coach · Private Coaching
Build a life you actually respect.
Private coaching with Jay Tostevin for the version of you that has been waiting. Clarity, discipline, and direction — one honest conversation at a time.
Private 1:1 coachingSelective intakeRemote worldwide
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Meet your coach
I'm Jay. I help people come back to themselves.
Welcome to 1life1coach. Life coaching for success in your work, relationship and social life. Live your best life with Jay
Jay Tostevin
Founder, 1Life1Coach
Who this is for
Coaching isn't for everyone. Here's who it's for.
This is for you if:
- You're successful on paper and quietly misaligned underneath.
- You know what you want — you just can't seem to act on it.
- You're ready to be honest with yourself, even when it's uncomfortable.
- You want a coach who will tell you the truth, not sell you a formula.
- You're willing to do the work between sessions, not just in them.
This probably isn't for you if:
- You're looking for a quick fix, hack, or 30-day reinvention.
- You want motivation without accountability.
- You're not ready to take ownership of what you've been avoiding.
- You'd rather consume content than have real conversations.
How I help
Three pillars. One life.
Everything we work on lives under one of these. We move between them as the work requires — but the structure is steady.
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Relationships
How you connect with others determines how you experience life. This is where resilience is built.
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Mission
What you do with your life and how well you do it, defines your standard. This is where excellence shows.
The journey
How the coaching relationship actually works.
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The first conversation
A 30-minute call. No pitch. We look honestly at where you are, where you want to be, and whether coaching is the right next step. If it is, we decide how to work together. If not, you leave with clarity you didn't have walking in.
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The foundation
We spend the first few weeks rebuilding the fundamentals — clarity on what you actually want, the standards your life requires, and the honest inventory of what's been holding you back. This is the work most people skip.
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The build
Weekly private sessions, direct messaging between sessions, and real accountability. We translate the clarity into a life you walk — not one you talk about. Most clients work with me for three to six months.
In their words
People I've sat with.
These are clients who did real work. The outcomes below are theirs — not promises, just what happened when we sat across from each other and told the truth.
“Working with Jay helped me unlock potential I didn’t realise I had. His approach is professional, direct, and genuinely empowering. I’d recommend 1Life1Coach without hesitation”
“I knew I wasn’t performing well at work and things weren’t looking good with my boss. Working with Jay gave me clarity on what was going wrong and the confidence to fix it. The biggest change is I actually feel happy again.”
“I had struggled with my relationship with my brother for years. We barely spoke outside of family gatherings, and I used to dread them because of how it made me feel. Working with Jay helped me realise what to do. I’m grateful to say my brother is now back in my life”
What changes
The real outcomes.
We don't measure coaching by worksheets completed. We measure it by how your life feels three months in, six months in, a year in.
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Clarity you can act on
You'll know what you actually want — not what you were told to want — and you'll have a path to it that fits your life.
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Discipline that holds
The habits, standards, and daily structure the life you want requires. Built with you, not imposed on you.
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Confidence that is earned
Not the performed kind. The kind that comes from keeping the promises you make to yourself.
The first step
Your next ten years start with one conversation.
Private coaching is selective and limited. If you're ready, the first call is where we figure out if this is the right next step for you.